The Virtues of Muslim Women
A warning for men.
Jabir (radhiallaho anho) narrates that the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) also gave these instructions in his sermon during the Farewell Pilgrimage. “Fear Allah regarding women; for you have taken them (in marriage) with the trust of Allah. (Mishtat)
This warning establishes the sanctity and inviolability of women’s rights. In this teaching men have been cautioned that although they are guardians of women, they should not exercise this responsibility without concern and fear of accountability to Allah. They should be mindful that Allah is a witness between them and their wives and it is through His commandment and permission that women have been made lawful for them through marriage. Women are therefore in Allah’s protection. If the husbands are cruel they are guilty of breaching their trust with Allah. How big an honour this is for women and how stern is the warning for their guardian husbands, that they should remember that women are in Allah’s protection. (Ma ‘Arif al-Hadith)
The wife is therefore entrusted to the man on a sacred pledge to which Allah is a party. Islam teaches that in this union the function of the woman is not only for the gratification of physical drives. On the contrary she is viewed as the most qualified partner of man in shaping the character of family and society for the realisation of the ultimate aims of human existence.
Farewell advice for men
The Holy Prophet (Sallallaho alaihi wasallam) has said: O people, your wives have a certain right over you and you have certain rights over them. Treat them well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. (Tirmidhi)
Fair dealings and good behaviour is necessary towards everyone, but the Prophet (Sallallaho alaihi wasaliam) the mercy for all mankind, emphasised it especially towards women.
Kindness to the wife, an aspect of faith
A’isha, (radhialiaho anha) reported Allah’s messenger as saying, “Among the believers who show most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition, and are kindest to their families.” (Tirmidhi)
Note: A’isha (radial ho anha), the Holy Prophet’s wife, is one of the most famous women in Islamic history. She was gifted with an outstanding intelligence and memory and is considered to be one of the most reliable narrators of ahadith
The Best men
Abu Huraira (radhialiaho anho) reported Allah’s messenger as saying, “The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives ” (Tirmidhi)
Behaving with women emphasised
For the benefit of the believers who love and follow him, the Prophet Sallallaho alaihi wasallam) cited his own example to make these instructions more effective, he remarked:
The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family. [Tirmidthi]
Easy entry in paradise
Umm Salma (radhiallaho anha) reported Allah’s messenger as saying, “Any woman who dies when her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise.”[Tirmidhi]
Should the husband be displeased with his wife without any fault of hers, she will of course be innocent in Allah’s sight and the responsibility for annoyance shall rest with the husband.
Spending for wife’s comfort
It is narrated by Abu-Darda (radhiallaho anho) that the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) instructed me: “Spend as much as possible upon your family. . . ” (Kanz)
This is indeed a source of encouragement to spend for the comfort of women. The husband is also under an obligation to maintain his wife irrespective of whether she is rich or poor .
Those who are not generous with their wives should take heed of this advice.